I bought the better pillow

Dear Delyara, For months I have been waking up with neck pain and talking to myself like a very practical enemy about it. It’s not that bad. You’ve slept on worse. It can wait. There are more important things to buy. Stop being fussy. This week I got tired of hearing that voice. I bought the better pillow. The thing is, it wasn’t really about bedding. It was about no longer treating my own daily comfort as the first thing to negotiate away. I do that all the time with myself. Shoes, sleep, food, bras, appointments, quiet, rest. I compromise downward as if my body should be grateful for whatever it gets. I don’t want to live like that anymore.