I changed the duvet cover because I wanted a kinder bed,

Dear Delyara, There are things I will do quickly for appearance, for company, for standards, for looking like someone who has it together. Doing the same thing purely because I want my own night to feel softer is a different kind of choice. This week I made that choice. Fresh cover. Fresh pillowcase. No reason beyond wanting comfort to meet me more gently when the day was done. It’s astonishing how often I still treat my own private experience as negotiable until there is an external witness involved. I’m trying to undo that, one domestic correction at a time. This one helped.