I felt more restful than performative in this love

Dear Delyara, That may be the clearest sign that it is good for me. I don’t feel I have to be sparkling, endlessly emotionally articulate, always beautifully regulated, or constantly available at the highest level in order to remain safe inside the connection. I can be human and still feel held. I think love that reduces performance is rarer than people say. And far more healing. This week I felt that deeply.