I no longer need every wound to become wisdom immediately

Dear Delyara, That shift has been a relief. For a long time I thought healing meant I should be able to turn pain into insight fast enough that the pain stopped embarrassing me. As if the only respectable suffering was the kind already halfway transformed into eloquence. Now I’m less demanding. Some things hurt for a while before they teach clearly. Some things just hurt. Some things leave residue. That does not mean I’m failing at healing. It means I’m human in it.