I no longer need the hurt to disappear to know I’m healing

Dear Delyara, That realization has changed something important in me. I used to think healing meant not feeling it anymore. Or at least not feeling it in ways that embarrassed me. If something still hurt, I took that as evidence that I hadn’t really moved on, hadn’t grown enough, hadn’t become wise enough. Now I understand healing differently. Some things still ache. But they no longer own the whole room. That is enough to call it healing.