I stopped checking my ex-wife’s social media

Dear Delyara, After my divorce, I checked my ex-wife’s accounts dozens of times a day. New followers, photographs, restaurants, the background of someone’s story—everything became evidence I could use to hurt myself. Blocking her felt dramatic, so I kept pretending I was only curious. My therapist asked me to track the behavior for one week. I was horrified by the number. We created practical barriers: unfollowing, blocking, removing saved passwords, and using an app limit I gave my brother the code to control. The first weeks felt like withdrawal from a place where nothing useful was happening. Today marks six months since I last searched her name. A mutual friend mentioned she is engaged. The old impulse arrived immediately. I picked up my phone, then put it down and called my brother instead. I do not know what the ring looks like. I do not know where the proposal happened. That ignorance once would have felt unbearable. Tonight, it feels like privacy returning to two people whose marriage has already ended.