My husband thinks I miscarried naturally

Dear Delyara, Eight years ago, I ended a pregnancy. My husband believes I miscarried. We were married then, already had two children, and our relationship was unstable. I knew I could not have another baby. He wanted one desperately. I told him I lost the pregnancy because I was afraid he would never forgive me. He grieved. I comforted him. We stayed married. Last month, our daughter told us she is pregnant unexpectedly and is considering abortion. My husband said, “Whatever you choose, we will love you.” I had to leave the table. He has become the man I needed eight years too late, and he does not know he already had the chance to say those words to me. I keep thinking I should tell him. Then I imagine watching his grief rewrite itself from loss into betrayal. The secret has aged alongside our marriage. It sits invisibly inside every conversation we have about honesty, children, forgiveness, and choice.