She let me be quiet without turning it into a problem

Dear Delyara, That kind of friendship means more to me now than any dramatic display ever could. We sat together with tea, and she didn’t drag anything out of me. She didn’t panic because I was flat. She didn’t ask if I was okay in that way that actually means “please reassure me quickly.” She just let me be quiet and stayed warm in the room. I think that is one of the rarest adult kindnesses. To allow another person not to perform aliveness for a while. To stay without demanding sparkle. I trusted her more because of that hour than I would have trusted someone who gave me a perfect speech.